If you’ve been faced with making the best man’s speech at your best mate’s wedding – you may be feeling a bit nervous. It’s natural; there’s a lot of expectation with the job, and you want to get it right, so here are three things to remember:
- They may be expecting a hilarious speech because you may be quite funny in the pub – but comedy is a very different thing in front of an audience at such a high stakes event. Are you a professional stand up comedian? Have you spent your career honing your material and comedy timing in clubs and open mic nights? Probably not … if you’re not a ballerina you wouldn’t attempt a bit from Swan Lake, so why assume you can do what pro comics do? Avoid the temptation to tell jokes. And go easy on the unsavoury anecdotes.
- Do not touch a drop of alcohol until you’ve finished. No, really. ‘ … I’ll be more relaxed …’ ‘ … I’m funnier after a few …’ No. You’re not. What it will relax are the tiny muscles that control your clear, controlled speech – and your ability to think.
- And remember what it’s all about, and keep it short and sweet. No-one ever complained that a speech was too short.
You’ll find more advice on dealing with nerves, voice and body language on this site. Good luck! PH